Amelia's Birth Story

This is a really long, detailed post of Amelia's birth. Feel free to skip to the bottom for pictures. 

Friday, September 20th:

I went in for an appointment. I was 37 weeks and 2 days along. I was getting curious about my progress and wanted to be checked. I could definitely tell the baby dropped and was feeling extra pressure in my pelvic area. Plus, Logan and Hudson were planning to go up to VA for the weekend since Kate (Logan's sister) was having her missionary farewell talk at church on Sunday; I wanted to make sure I wasn't dilated or anything before I let them go. My midwife (Heather) was a little skeptical about checking me. She said they don't normally check the cervix until 38 weeks, and to not be disappointed if there was no progress. 

Well, she checked me and we found out I was already 4cm dilated, 50% effaced, and the baby was in the -1 position. Holy cow! She said my cervix was still posterior, but that as soon as it moved to the front - I would be having a baby in no time! She said I was highly favorable to go early, and advised me to tell Logan to stay home for the weekend - just in case.  

At this point, I was freaking out a little bit because I wasn't expecting to have a baby until October. I immediately called my mom after the appointment, and we decided she should come down ASAP (she came the next day). 

My mom and I spent the next few days running errands and getting the house cleaned in preparation for baby girl. We went on walks around the lake and the mall to stimulate labor, but nothing happened so we just kept waiting. I was having some contractions, but nothing consistent or painful.

Wednesday, September 25th: 

I went in for my 38 week appointment in the afternoon (exactly two weeks from my due date). I met with Heather again, and we talked about how we were both surprised I was not with a baby yet. She checked my cervix to see what was going on. I was about 6 cm dilated, 80% effaced, and the baby was in the -1 position. But with NO strong contractions. What?! 

I asked what my options were. I had two:

1) Go home and wait it out

OR

2) Get my water broken either that night or tomorrow (after getting approval from the doctor)

A bunch of things started running through my mind. I was hesitant to go home and wait it out because we live 30 minutes away from the hospital. Hudson came so fast (see his birth story here), and I knew baby girl would come quickly too - especially being 6 cm dilated already. I did not want to have a baby at home or in the car. I was also hesitant to get my water broken because I wanted this baby to come on her own without medical intervention. I wanted my body to do what it was suppose to do. 

I had a bunch of questions for Heather about getting my water broken - would it be painful? what are the risks to baby and me? would I still be able to do it naturally? would I be getting pitocin after getting my water broken? how fast would contractions begin? what happens if breaking my water doesn't stimulate labor for me? 

Heather answered my questions and reassured me that everything would be okay - that breaking my water would be similar to as if it had broke at home. Given my history, she did not think I would be in labor very long after getting my water broken since I was already at a 6 and that giving me pitocin was also highly unlikely. She also said she needed to run this scenario by the doctor before we go ahead with anything. I told her to go check and that I would call my husband.   

I called Logan and told him the options. It was already late afternoon, and he was getting done with classes. He told me both of those options sounded good to him, but that it was my decision. I told him I was leaning toward having the baby tonight or tomorrow. I told him I would call him back after getting the doctor's approval. I sat there for a few minutes waiting for Heather to get back from talking to the doctor. I said a quick little prayer and felt good about the decision to get my water broken.  

Heather came back with the doctor's decision. The doctor (Dr. Grana) said my symptoms were early labor indications, but that my cervix was in active labor so I was given the green light to get my water broken, but it had to be tonight. I was hoping I could do it that night anyway because I knew Heather was on call and so was Dr. Grana, two people I really like/prefer at the practice. 

So, I said let's do it. Heather called the hospital and said she would see me later that evening. 

I went home to eat a small dinner, get my things, and check on Hudson/my mom. Logan gave me a blessing and we said goodbye to Hudson (who was so sweet and kept saying "bye Mom, get Mia"). I was a little worried about Logan because he was not feeling well earlier that day, but he kept saying not to worry about him and that he was ready for baby girl to come. What a champ! 

We got to the hospital at 7:30 pm. It was such a different experience walking up to the hospital, not in any pain, and just checking in to have a baby. It felt like we were on a date, but of course we knew things were going to get intense pretty quickly.

outside the hospital

We got into the Labor & Delivery room and met our awesome nurse (Peggy). I got hooked up to the monitors, had blood drawn, and a hep-lock administered. Peggy asked if I wanted an epidural since it would take an hour or so to get, but I declined. I felt pretty confident and ready to birth without meds, especially with being so far dilated.  

I was still not having any painful or strong contractions at this point, but I was getting nervous about what was going to happen.

ready to get the show on the road

 (before getting my water broken and real contractions started)

At 8:30 pm,  Heather came into my room to break my water. It was a quick, painless procedure. It felt like I peed my pants, but couldn't stop it from coming out. Weird feeling. Heather said she would be back to check on me in about an hour, and that hopefully I wouldn't be smiling by then.

My plan was to take a quick nap, walk around, and then labor in the jacuzzi tub. I couldn't really nap though, so we watched some TV and played on our phones. Then, a little after 9 pm, I felt a strong contraction. I was still laying down on the bed, but they started coming every 5 minutes. I finally decided to get up and try walking around. We walked the hallway twice, stopping every few minutes because of a contraction - felt like really bad menstrual cramps. We got back to our room and I rocked on the exercise ball for a little while. More water kept leaking from me, and I told Logan to start the jacuzzi tub because I wanted to labor in there for awhile.

It felt really good to be in the tub, but contractions were stronger and I was so ready to get her out of me. Logan massaged my back and told me to breathe with each contraction - such a great coach! I get into my own little world when laboring. I zone out and get really quiet while breathing through each contraction. The nurses commented later about how impressed they were with my control.

Peggy came back to check on me and she could tell I was getting close, so she went to get Heather. I got out of the tub and back on the bed so they could hook me up to monitor the baby and contractions. This was about 10:30 pm.

Heather came to check my cervix and at that point I was 9 1/2 cm, 100% effaced, and baby was at +2 position. It was time to delivery the baby! Everyone started getting ready. There were only a handful of people in the room: Peggy, Heather, a midwife student (forgot her name - maybe Tracy), two other nurses (for the baby), and Logan. Heather told me I could push whenever I felt like it, so I started with little pushes while they were getting everything ready for delivery.

Logan held my hand and I started the real pushing around 10:45 pm. Pushing was a lot harder this time around because I did it faster and pushed through longer. *With Hudson, I took long breaks in between and did it with short pushes.* I was crying and grunting pretty loudly. I would let the contraction build up, and then push as hard and long as I could. I kept thinking (I may have said it out loud) "Owwww! Please, please just get her out of me!" Heather looked at me and with a serious tone said, "Abby, focus! You can do this!" It almost felt like she was yelling at me, but it worked. I snapped back to reality and just kept thinking I can do this. I was getting close.

Finally, Heather told me that on the next push the baby could be out, so I gave it everything I could. Baby girl started to crown, and I felt that burning sensation so strongly that I kept pushing through it which is why I tore (they told me too late to stop pushing).

Amelia was born at 11:09 pm, after about 4 long pushes. Whew! I got to hold her immediately. Oh my gosh! Holding her for the first time was such a sweet, tender moment. I couldn't believe she was finally here! We let the cord finish pulsating and then Logan cut the cord. Amelia got cleaned up, measured, etc. with daddy by her side. I delivered the placenta and got stitched because of the small tear (definitely not as bad as with Hudson).

The first thing everyone said was how big she was, much bigger than her older brother was at birth. Prior to all this, Logan had guessed she would be 6 pounds 1 ounce - not even close. She is a chunky thing - 8 pounds 2 ounces and 20 1/2 inches. That is a big baby for being two weeks early, and for someone petite like me. Heather said if I made it to my due date she would have been at least 9 pounds - how do I have such big babies?! The first thing I noticed about Amelia was just how beautiful she is with lots of dark hair and her button nose. She looks a lot like Hudson did when he was born.

 first picture of me with my baby girl

those cheeks!!!

The process was hard work, but I'm so glad it happened quickly (about 2 1/2 hours of labor from when they broke my water). I am really blessed to have short (but intense) labors, especially with how far dilated I get before contractions really start hurting. I am also really glad I was able to birth naturally again. I was able to trust my body, and felt so much confidence in my ability to bring a baby into the world. I felt the same way with Hudson's birth and hoped it would happen with Amelia's birth. And it did. It's such a empowering experience, and one that I am glad I got to do not once but twice! Wow. Such an amazing, powerful feeling!

Amelia was so worth all the waiting and the pain! She nursed like a champ almost immediately. We got to be together for about an hour in the L&D room to just soak it all in before getting moved to the other room. I felt so much gratitude for my Heavenly Father in those quiet moments - to have one healthy new baby in my arms, another sleeping soundly at home, and a loving husband by my side. It doesn't get much better than that.

 first wink caught on camera

isn't she a chunk?

the best "first" family picture we could get

Hud's holding his bear that Mia got him (sibling present)

Logan is wearing a shirt/tie because he had to go in for a quick meeting the next morning 

meeting his sissy for the first time

precious moment

love my babies

Grandma & Grandpa Sangbouasy

first car ride (going home)

finally at home

We are all doing great. Hudson is slowly learning what it means to be a big brother, and that Amelia isn't a baby doll he can poke and hold whenever he wants. I am recovering really well; a lot better than with Hudson. Amelia is doing great too. Excellent nurser and a peaceful little sleeper (so far). She is just so sweet. I am so grateful that I get to be her mother, and that Heavenly Father chose our family for her to be in!

About her name - we have LOVED the name Amelia for a long time (while I was pregnant with Hudson). I kept bringing up new girl names, but Logan was always pretty adamant about Amelia so it just stuck. We will call her Mia for short, at least that is what Hudson calls her. Her middle name is Linh (pronounced Lynn). We decided to use the Asian spelling to represent my family's heritage; it's also my mom's name and the last part of my middle name. In Vietnamese, it means gentle spirit or soul.

Amelia Linh is the perfect addition to our family! We already love her so so much!

Update on baby girl

We are hitting the home stretch. I am 32 weeks today! I will start going to my appointments every 2 weeks from now on. Baby girl looks completely healthy and right on track for her due date of October 9th.

A few things about baby girl and third trimester pregnancy...

• She is not as active as Hudson was in my belly (hopefully that will remain the same once she is here). :)

• She has a name! We're 98% sure. It's been one we have liked since I was pregnant with Hudson and it's just stuck with us. Plus, Hudson has the cutest little nickname for her and says it in the sweetest voice which makes it hard to think of a better name. We will announce her name on the blog and FB once she's born. Here are names that have been on our list (or more like my list, since Logan is very selective and only likes a few), in no particular order: 

Elaine (Elle)

Caroline

Amelia

Sophie

Lyla

Kaycie

Reese

Gwendolyn (Gwen)

• My back is killing me. That's my only complaint about this pregnancy. I'm so thankful for Logan and all the back rubs he has given me. I was recommended by my midwife to go see a chiropractor for an adjustment, but I'm a little nervous to do so just from all the horror stories I've heard. 

• Second babies are less expensive than first babies, that's for sure! We are re-using just about everything we used for Hudson with the exception of clothing (obviously) and blankets (since it doesn't seem likely Hudson will be willing to share his). The only big purchase we have made is our Phil and Teds stroller with doubles kit - absolutely love it!

• We have a few big projects that we want to get done before she gets here including painting a dresser/changing table and possibly the crib too (if I can convince Logan to do all that painting for me). And a few smaller projects for me to do that involve sewing - breastfeeding cover, car seat cover, and (eventually) a blessing dress. 

• I gained about 10 pounds in 4 weeks. Pretty impressive, I think. I wasn't lying when I said I gain everything at the end. Weight gain has been normal though - about 22 pounds so far. 

• My birth plan is written down and ready to go, but my midwives are pretty clear on what I would like happen, and what I would like happen if things don't go accordingly. I'm registered at the hospital and pediatrician is selected (same as Hudson's). Just need to get the car seat installed and hospital bag ready, in case I go into labor mega-fast like I did the first time.  

• The reality of having TWO kids is kicking in. I think I will be able to handle the newborn stage a lot better this time around since I will know what to expect, but what worries me is having to split my attention between an active toddler and a needy newborn. Luckily, I will have my mom and then my mother-in-law visiting for a few weeks, and friends who have offered to help until I get the hang of things.   

at 28 weeks

baby bump
at 32 weeks


Less than 2 months until baby girl's arrival!
We are getting excited!

Girl

Yep, it's true! We are having a girl!!!!! My mothering instincts have failed me every time when trying to guess my child's gender. I'm 0-2, while husband is 2-2.

We are excited for a girl though! I can't wait to meet her and see what she looks like. I keep imagining Hudson with long hair, and that gives me a mental picture of what a little girl will look like. We have two names that we love, but will wait until she is born to announce the name.

It was really fun finding out the gender of the baby. We actually went to see a friend in our church congregation who is a Radiologist to get a sneak peak, but he wasn't 100% certain - our babies tend to be really difficult/modest (see our experience with Hudson here). The little bean was sitting with legs crossed, hunched over. Not the best view. Our Radiologist friend said he was leaning toward a girl, but not entirely sure. So, we went to our OB ultrasound a few days later and they confirmed it was a girl!!! Everything looks great too. Normal pregnancy. No discomfort.....yet. Weight gain has been 3 pounds for me so far (again I think I will gain it all at the end). The baby looks healthy and right on schedule for an October 9th due date; that puts the kiddos a little over 2 years apart.

We decided to do something a little fun for the gender reveal besides just tell everyone. So we got pink balloons (Logan got me blue balloons when we found out boy the first time - might have to be a little tradition now), and put them into a bin to open in front of family (via picture text) and friends. We also had strawberry cake and strawberry lemonade that night too. It was really cute, and Hudson sure loved the balloons.

18 week belly

It's a.....

So excited to not be the only girl in our little family, and to officially start thinking PINK!!!!

Let the shopping, crafting, and decorating begin.

Second Pregnancy

This second pregnancy has been smooth sailing, for the most part. The first couple weeks I was just tired and did nothing all day. I felt bad for Hud because we stayed inside and I let him watch way too many movies/shows while I lounged on the couch, and then Logan would get home from work and I'd still be on the couch while he made us dinner (best husband ever). Luckily, that only happened for about two weeks and then I decided to get moving and out of the house.

At about 15 weeks, I am feeling pretty great! I still try to take naps with Hudson during the day, but most of the time I get up before he does and can still get things done (he's been a GREAT napper lately - about 2-3 hours every afternoon).

I'm still with the same practice (the one that delivered Hudson) and I love them. It's a practice with midwives and doctors, which is really reassuring for me. I love seeing my midwives. They are the best - always really personable, caring, attentive, and I feel like they really listen and give encouraging feedback. It's such a blessing to have a warm, friendly practice to go too. It's called Triangle Physicians for Women, in case any of my local friends are interested. For those of you wondering, yes, I am going for another natural birth. Hudson's birth was such a positive, empowering experience. It was a dream labor and delivery for me! You can read about it here. I am really hoping to have the same kind of experience, but I know that is not always the case so I am making sure to keep an open mind through all of this.

One thing that I feel like I did better with the last pregnancy is exercising. I was going to the gym and taking my group exercise classes (Pilates, Yoga, and PiYO) right into my third trimester. With this pregnancy, I feel so lazy but chasing my 20 month old around is plenty of "exercise" right? I'm going to try to do better, especially now that the weather is nicer and there is a nice lake where we can take walks in the mornings. I'm also going to start doing Pilates again from home or put in my pregnancy workout DVD (the one Logan hates). I think because I was actively exercising I was able to go through an intense, quick labor with Hudson without any medication. I know it might not be the same way with baby #2, but I definitely want to make sure I am prepared on my part - that means exercising and staying active.

The next thing is eating. I think Logan and I are pretty healthy eaters, so this won't be too difficult. I am really loving my fruit this time around and meat. Not really loving my veggies, except for baby carrots, corn, and bell peppers. I don't think I have eaten a salad since I found out I was pregnant. I don't know, but the taste of lettuce just doesn't appeal to me right now. I'm sure I'll try again soon. It's so weird though because we almost always have a salad with dinner every night, but it has been awhile since I've made one. Again, lettuce sounds gross right now. Maybe I should try spinach salads.

And as far as weight gain, I've gained a pound so far. I'm thinking I'll gain it all in the end, just like last time.

Girl/Boy predictions? Let's hear it. Both of our families are saying GIRL. I want to believe it, but something in my mind says boy. Probably because we don't have any boy names. We are hoping to find out early - around 17 or 18 weeks. That means soon!

And, here are baby bump pictures. Like I said, not too much now.....but get ready for the whale of a surprise coming soon. Did I mention I'm going to be pregnant during the hot, humid summer? Yeah, really looking forward to that. ;) At least we have a community pool, so I'm sure that is where I'll be the whole summer (Hudson will love it too, I'm sure).

 12 weeks

almost 15 weeks

Secret

Our secret is out! :)

We are really excited to have baby #2 join our family. I've been feeling great (no morning sickness at all - I'm one of the lucky ones). But I've been super tired this time around, so I usually take naps when Hudson naps during the day and I try to get to bed early most nights. 

I'm almost 10 weeks along, and the baby is looking great! 

We feel so blessed. 

Also, second pregnancies do not mess around - I'm already showing (pics to come). In the meantime, check out our little bean: 

at 7 weeks

at 9 1/2 weeks

I think it's another boy, but my mothering instincts weren't right the first time so we'll see.